| How to forget someone? | | | | believe that by the time night fell, I had actually stopped |
| There was this girl I wanted to get out of my head. But | | | | fussing over her? I was suddenly more in the moment, |
| whatever I did would bring back her memories and I | | | | enjoying my time at the lab and with a friend without |
| would feel pathetic again. I worked in a research | | | | any "Oh God!" thoughts. |
| laboratory in those days. And even the lab solutions | | | | Thought Stopping: What You Can Do |
| made me remember her! The bottles, the table, my | | | | Is there someone YOU want to forget? Any thought |
| gloves: almost anything reminded me of her. I was | | | | you don't want but which keeps coming? I think this |
| feeling down. | | | | method can help. |
| While I drifted into reveries about her thinking about | | | | First however, you must firmly decide that you WANT |
| how we had had a wonderful time at the beach and | | | | to stop thinking about something. |
| how I was missing her, I suddenly shrieked - "Stop!" " | | | | Do you really want to stop thinking about that person? |
| How did I start thinking about the beach?", I asked | | | | Because if a part of you wants to keep thinking about |
| myself. I noticed that just before thinking this "beach" | | | | that person and another part wants to not think, then |
| thought, I had thought about how she had kissed my | | | | how can you stop thinking about her? |
| hand on that same day. And just before thinking this | | | | So first, are you sure - you want to stop thinking? If |
| "kissing" thought, I had remembered the brown clothes | | | | yes, let's start! |
| she wore that day....Slowly I started tracking back my | | | | Now, as your day passes, whenever you catch |
| thoughts to find out what got me thinking about her in | | | | yourself thinking about that person, ask yourself - |
| the first place. | | | | "Where did this thought come from?" And then track |
| I found this thought pattern: | | | | the thought back to what started it. Was it the wall, the |
| I had looked at the elevator bulbs --> They reminded | | | | refrigerator or the sky? |
| me of the day when I had first met her because I had | | | | This could be difficult once or twice, but if you keep at |
| counted the number of elevator bulbs that day --> | | | | it, you'll soon be on a roll! Just track the thought back to |
| That reminded me of the way she looked when I first | | | | its source. Nothing else is required. |
| met her at the airport-->That made me remember | | | | Holy Christ! You'll suddenly be free of those obsessive |
| the skirt she wore that day at the airport--> he skirt | | | | thoughts! Let's uncork the champagne! |
| reminded me of her clothes when we were at the | | | | All this sounds weird. Why does this work? How does |
| beach -->That made me remember the wonderful | | | | this work? I don't know for sure, but it worked for me. |
| time we had at the beach. | | | | Maybe it works because instead of being flooded by a |
| Oops! So this whole chain of thoughts started when I | | | | sea of thoughts that leads us here and there, we |
| looked at elevator lights? | | | | actually pause to notice what we are thinking - and so |
| Throughout my day, after that, I started tracking back | | | | the thinking stops having control over us. |
| my thoughts whenever I remembered her. As soon as | | | | Do try it for ONE day. And when you try it - you might |
| I caught myself thinking of her, I would ask - "Where | | | | even get lost in your emotions thinking about the |
| did that thought come from?" And ALWAYS it would | | | | person you want to forget. Or you might be too lazy |
| be triggered by wall paintings and door knobs and | | | | to track thoughts. But commit to |
| windows! Common everyday objects would be the | | | | mission-thought-tracking and you'll feel awesome. |
| triggers. | | | | So that's how to forget someone. |
| I treated this like a game and kept at it. Can you | | | | |