| What is the definition of a 'difficult' | | | | as a 'difficult' person, only someone who |
| person? Do you ever wonder why some people | | | | behaves differently from our model of how |
| are difficult to be with? | | | | they should be behaving. It's good to |
| | | | remember that from their point of view, they |
| A difficult person may be someone who was | | | | may be doing just fine and may be thinking |
| physically or verbally abused as a child. | | | | about how difficult you are. |
| They may have been dyslexic, uncoordinated or | | | | |
| bullied in school. Life may have been very | | | | When you become more aware of your own |
| difficult for them, and they've carried this | | | | feelings, stop running on automatic drive, |
| over into their adult life. | | | | and start taking control of your own life |
| | | | with positive feelings, you will be surprised |
| Everyone is looking for love in their own | | | | at how much easier it is to deal with |
| way, but a 'difficult' person may not think | | | | 'difficult' people. |
| they deserve love or even know how to receive | | | | |
| love. They may not know what love is all | | | | LOOK FOR THE COMMON GROUND |
| about or how to let people into their life. | | | | |
| Couldn't this apply to most people? | | | | By Tom Dalton |
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| When you think of a person who is | | | | Living in a world of people, how do we |
| 'difficult', put yourself in their shoes to | | | | survive? |
| see how you would react if you had their | | | | |
| lifestyle, their upbringing, or their | | | | Living with so many people, when will we |
| programming. | | | | realize |
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| In the Bible, Luke 6:41: says "Why do you | | | | You and 1, we're so alike. You and 1, we're |
| look at the speck of sawdust in your | | | | so a like. |
| brother's eye and pay no attention to the | | | | |
| plank in your own eye?" Other people are our | | | | And when I feel that I am right and you are |
| mirror. What we may not like about another | | | | wrong |
| person reflects something we may not like | | | | |
| about ourselves. | | | | I just smile when I see your face |
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| Try not to judge. We are often not aware of | | | | Remember there's a oneness space. |
| how judgmental we are. We think that people | | | | |
| are not 'using their heads' when they do not | | | | Try to see the world through your eyes |
| think the same way we do. Accept people for | | | | |
| what they are, not what you want them to be. | | | | And even If our point of view may seem to |
| | | | disagree |
| Everyone works out of his or her own | | | | |
| programming. It is our programming that | | | | There's something we can understand, |
| creates our actions and also influences the | | | | |
| reactions of people around us. | | | | I think that you'll agree. |
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| Difficult Children | | | | We have to look for the common ground, |
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| I remember how it was when I was volunteering | | | | You can find it all around |
| at the Children's Receiving Home, a home for | | | | |
| children that were very difficult, especially | | | | Look for the love in everyone |
| those who ran away repeatedly. | | | | |
| | | | Even if it's hard to see, you can find the |
| Every evening before I left to go home, I | | | | unity. |
| would go around the room and give each child | | | | |
| a hug and say, "I love you." | | | | Just look for the love in everyone. |
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| There was one little girl about 6-years-old | | | | In our living day to day, it's easy to forget |
| who was a constant runaway. After I hugged | | | | |
| her and said "I love you" she started to cry. | | | | All our talk of brotherhood Just doesn't seem |
| | | | to fit. |
| "Why are you crying?" I asked. | | | | |
| | | | There's a lot of broken hearts with nothing |
| She answered, "Nobody ever hugged me before | | | | left to believe |
| or said they loved me." Here was a child | | | | |
| crying out for love and every one thought she | | | | Now it's time we made a start, |
| was just being difficult. | | | | |
| | | | It's up to you and me. |
| As we get older we still crave love, and so | | | | |
| we act out, like that little girl that just | | | | Look for that common ground, |
| wanted someone to say, "I love you." | | | | |
| | | | Look for the love in everyone. |
| Using this viewpoint, there is no such thing | | | | |